Monday, December 12, 2011

The hardest conversation (day 47)

Hello, friends.

We've been having the deeper conversation today, Nancy, I, and a couple of our friends who are trained therapists and caregivers. Out of respect for Nancy, I'm not going to be too specific, as this is an intensely personal question. What do we do, and what choices do we make, when we know our days are numbered?

To be sure, all of our days are numbered. I have perhaps 5000 or 10,000 or 50 left in my life, who knows. Nancy knows she hasn't all that many. Does she want to be kept alive at all costs as a quadriplegic on a respirator, for example, for maybe a month or two? It's easier to say what we would choose when we are not facing the end of our life, the cycle of incarnation, the face of god. She now has to make choices soon that will impact the rest of her life.

We're exploring options, which depend on choices by the staff, and choices by Nancy. Tomorrow morning we are having another meeting with her ICU attending doctor, and a lip reader.

During our prayer tonight at 7pm, I ask you all to pray for Nancy to find peace and clarity and wisdom.


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